BEING THE BIGGER PERSON

In any conflict there is always the wrong and the wronged one. Through our trials and tribulations in life, most of us have been through both situations. In any heated altercation there is that urge to retaliate just to make sure we have the last say and prove that we are right. Not everyone likes being on the losing end especially in arguments that are just alleged against them.

Indeed it hurts inside when allegations are lodged against you for something you have not done. The burning rage and anger may sometimes compel you to do things that you may regret greatly at a later time, especially when proving your innocence is next to impossible.

One of the strongest and best characters one can have is that mere ability to conquer one’s heart and be the bigger person in a conflict. People can be unfair to you, lodge allegations against you, try to point out all the wrong things you have ever done and forget the good in you. But this does not mean you have to go prove to the whole world that you are not that person.

I do not dispute the fact that such advice is easier said than actually done however, as human beings, we should always try to seek harmony at hard times by reminding each other on the things that make the world a better place.

The best portrait of yourself is what you paint in your head and not what other people think. Yes it matters in some aspects because we don’t live in a vacuum. We live in a society where such encounters are inevitable. The best way to deal with such challenges is first of all is to master the ability being able to accept who you are and dealing with it.

Sometimes people do or say things with the intention to hurt us and when we show them that we are angry and hurt they feel victorious since they will have managed to achieve what they intended to do. Thus the best way to deal with such situations is being the bigger person and apologise if need be or just walk away and keep quiet. Keeping quiet or walking away from an argument does not make you any less of the person you are but rather the stronger one who managed to halt the altercation. Being the bigger person often demonstrates your strength in character and personality.

As much as revenge would seem the best idea on people who hurt us, at times it only makes us the very people we despise. It is best to sometimes just let go and let them be. In reality such vile people are very weak at heart and only feel good by tarnishing others' images. Thus one should not give them the benefit of winning by stooping to their wicked level just because of vengeance. Don't let such little people capture your attention, sometimes ignoring them is the best vengeance you can ever offer them.