SPACE

I am not a love guru but many will agree with me that when it comes to love, no one is experienced enough to know better. Neither does love have a perfect recipe to cook up a perfect relationship. Having said this, I would like to give my take on what I think when it comes to communication in a relationship.

At the start of any relationship communication is in abundance. The development in technology has even simplified the concept of relationships where people tend to feel each other’s presence at any given time. We all love those endless messages and constant phone calls reassuring each other as to how much we love each other and whatnot. What we seem to forget is that too much of anything is harmful!

There are times that relationships have broken down not due to lack of communication but rather due to too much communication. Not a second that goes by hasn’t one sent a message or ping or an email to their partner in demand of getting an answer (that we already know) back. 

Endless reassuring questions like: “Baby do you love me” can sometimes become very annoying and display lack of confidence in a relationship.What we need to understand is that people are different, some like to talk about how they feel and some manifest their feelings with actions. 15 to 20 phone calls a day updating me on what you are doing and whether I love you, may not be a very romantic thing to do, because it is rather turning your partner into a status update platform, which can very easily change course from caring to nagging.

Another problem starts when the blossoming relation starts to wear out where things get back to normal and the love birds return from dream land to the reality that they have opened up too much to each other and ended up in unexplored territories. Yes honesty is a good thing but are we willing to work with the consequences of our genuine honesty?

Indeed it is cute at times to be all on each other but we need to give each other a bit of space to miss each other and stir up the yearning to talk to our partners.

 Perhaps we sometimes need to be expensive and not respond at impulse because sometimes, people tend to take you for granted when you are always there at their disposal.