Love is not blind. We just tend to accept the flaws that come with the person you are in love with or the relationship itself. We tend to lie to ourselves that with time maybe things will fall into the right place and all will be well. Others associate love with pain. Love should not painful, love is a beautiful thing and it should be the one thing left in this world that brings you solace and happiness.
As a wise friend of mine would say, “everyone should have principles in life”. This is because once you have principles, only the variables would change but the main idea never changes. The same applies to our LOVE lives. This is only possible once we know our actual worth as individuals.
The wrong choices we make at the initial steps of starting relationships usually haunts us later. Most people especially the women undervalue their true worth to an irritating extent. They tend to put themselves in very compromising situations for example, being the other woman or being abused and beaten just because they love the people who mistreat them. One is left to wonder as to why a person should subject themselves to such demeaning relationships under the umbrella of love.
Are you sure you want to be that other woman that he sees on dark and dingy corners on his way home to his beautiful wife? Are you really that valueless to be the one he hides from everyone? Why shouldn’t you be that person he proudly presents in front of everyone as his wife or girlfriend?
Yes sometimes life circumstances can force you into situations you cannot untangle yourself but, in most cases it is the lack of firm principles that lead people into such compromising situations. At times you see that a man is happily married or committed and you accept to be that other secret third wheel in the relationship. What happens here is that you are neither loved nor needed but rather you are the dispensable one he lures, to complete his insatiable wants.
Next time you think of demeaning yourself into such unfair situations you should remember that:
