THE UNFULFILLED WISH LIST

Everybody has their secret ‘wish list’ that they keep in mind when it comes to their ideal person they want to spend their life with. ‘Mr. Right’ or ‘Prince Charming’ as loosely and commonly referred to. Most women like to always think that the longer they wait the bigger the chances are of meeting their perfect match. Truth is, or rather I think, no magic usually happens. What happens is that some random guy comes along who happens to tick some boxes on the ‘wish list’ which somehow qualifies him as the right person.

More often than not, the contrary usually happens. In the pursuit of meeting the right person, we pass through a lot of trials and tribulations and as a result, time fails our expectations and we tend to move the goal posts in the hope that the next one will be better.

Some are fortunate enough to meet their likings. Now the not-so-lucky ones consequently are subconsciously forced to reduce their fancies to a more realistic and achievable wish list. Failure to that they become bitter towards love and lead the ‘I don’t believe in love’ campaign together with other misconceived ideas about the notion of ‘independent women’. It is understandable where their anger stems from.

One thing we should understand is that to be an independent woman doesn't mean that one should be alone and full of vengeance against the idea of being happy and content with a significant other. Most women in this situation like to play the sympathy card in that they are always the wronged ones in a relationship. Ever thought of it the other way round?

It is only after accepting that not all the time will ‘happily ever after’ be on the menu, will one come to terms with the reality and be content with what life has to offer. Waking up to that ugly reality, one accepts the fact that love is not always a fireworks at first sight and then learn to understand and become content with what they get.

This doesn’t mean that at this point one should fall for anything that comes along but rather accept the fact that no one likes to be alone. As much as one would embrace the façade on the outside, truth is everybody likes to feel that tiny tingle that somebody thinks of them, that sweet beat skip when they see the person they love, and that little destraction from the hustles of life from that one person who will listen and always be there for them. Besides, everybody loves that little special attention!

So moral of my story is: We Can’t Always Get Our Wish List. 
Sometimes one just has to embrace what Life has to offer and learn to live with it. Superficial preferences are not always what we should be looking for. It is the person within that matters the most.