YIELDING MOTIVATION FROM "Haters"

Have you ever wondered why and how you made the cut to survive in this world till today? Well, considering you have no any special contract with God to survive to date but you still are, there must be a purpose of your existence. Everyone and everything in this world has a reason to be there and indeed not behind everyone’s presence is there a great story to be told. Others exist for the greater good whilst others are there, not for the wrong reasons but rather to shape and motivate others’ lives.

I don’t think ‘haters’ (as we loosely refer to them) is the right word to use when we refer to ‘not-so-good’ people we encounter in our lives. Perhaps the right word should be motivators. Yes motivators, because on my opinion I think we should appreciate having such challenging characters in our lives. This is because it is undeniable that most of us are where we are today because we either strived to prove a point to some ‘motivator’ who told or made us feel that we can’t make it, or, are where we are because we were at some point driven by a positive vengeance to become greater personalities, instead of confronting our ‘motivators’ who hurt us at some point.

Imagine how disheartened a performer feels when singing in a big stage without an audience. Drawing such an analogy to our lives, I believe we all need an audience to heckle or cheer us up as we perform in this show called life. Motivation sometimes comes in the weirdest of ways, sometimes the worst people we meet in our lives can bring out the best in us. We may not notice at the time we encounter them but the things they teach us along the way make us look back and sometimes be thankful we ever met them.

Indeed it hurts when we are unfairly done unto, bullied, bad mouthed or oppressed.  But life is not all about fairness, even in an exam, you sometimes perform your best when you learn the hard way. Thus life is like an endless exam with a few rewards here and there. Not even a motivational speaker or a life coach can push you to the limits you can achieve when the drive to succeed comes from a vengeful place in your heart. This is what we refer to as a positive vengeance!

On this note that we acknowledge the contribution of the not-so-accommodative people we have encountered in our lives. They touch our lives in a rather magical way that we always treasure unconsciously. We may not see the impact of how much their presence in our lives mean to us but it is worth noting the lessons they teach us in the process. The question to ask yourself is what is the purpose of your life to you and to others? Are you to be remembered for the best or for your fortunately failed attempt of demotivating others turned positive?