LEARNING TO LET GO

Love is not something you just decide to feel, it is a natural feeling that hits you when the time is right. When we are in love, the feeling is almost eternal in that we tend to think nothing can break us apart. The feelings are sometimes so strong they border on hate, resulting to endless arguments when our loved ones happen to do contrary to what we desire or expect. The heart is at its most fragile that with a slight misunderstanding, feelings can be triggered greatly.

We all have that one person we can be ourselves around, that one person we talk to about everything and anything without the fear of being judged. That one person you are comfortable to confront whenever you feel that things are not right. Arguments are healthy in a relationship; they spice up the relationship to cook up a perfect journey of two people who learn to live with each other through hard and good times. But we all know sometimes, too much of anything is harmful. When there are more of arguments than serenity it defeats the purpose of being in-love.

It is unfortunate that some differences are irreconcilable leaving the parties with no any other option than parting ways. Going through a break can be a very tough thing, this is because letting go of our past relationships is a difficult process overpowered by anger, guilt, fear of moving on and sometimes the fear of being alone. Despite all the different reasons, the hurt is the same.

Love should not be an annoying contest entailing constant fights because you never know when you are busy giving endless chances to that one person who constantly hurts you, there is someone out there yearning to please you. Love and respect should come as a package. You don’t love someone if you don’t respect their feelings. You only know someone is not worth of your time if they keep abusing the privilege of forgiveness from you constantly.   

It is easier said than done when people commonly tell each other “if you love me let me go” …of course I love you and that is why I don’t want to let you go! However, sometimes the best thing to do is to move on and forget about the past because that is where it belongs. Holding on to it is being unfair to yourself and those who are worthy of your time and affection. 

A note to remember: 

  We all have our battles to encounter but we only take up arms for the ones worth fighting for.